welcome Theuncertainty.....this really helped me too.
I found this over a year ago and it was such a relief to put a name to it.
I spoke about it in Al Anon and was told this is a common tactic amongst addicts, wet or dry. Their brains cannot compute they could be in the wrong, so at all costs, will seek and destroy.
It's sad actually. I cannot even imagine the pain a person feels to have to be like this