Gotahavfaith....thank you so much for your kind words!! You too are a wonderful mother and grandmother and your daughter is very lucky to have you..(and the little ones too!) I can relate to that because my older son has custody of my 6 year old grandson and I am helping him raise him. (They both live with me) Everyone always tells me how lucky my grandson is to have me (his mother is living her own selfish life - whole nother' chapter.) I think some definite boundaries will have to be set here in my house with the other son. We have already told him that if he uses - he is out! I will not have any nonsense around my grandson. I'm keeping my eyes open and trying to take deep breaths when he walks out the door - knowing that the choices he makes are his. If he so chooses to screw up all the great things he has going for him in his life now...he's on his own!