If the behavior is not acceptable, I distance myself from him. If his behaviors are good, I can tolerate limited doses of contact with him.
Very well put. It's hard even when the behaviors are good to recognize and realize that we can't jump back into things. "Limited doses" help keep us healthy.
Puddinface, I'm sorry you are going through this. My heart goes out to you. Whenever I read the posts by mothers regarding their children, I get very teary-eyed. I can feel the pain in the mothers' words and I just want to give all you moms a big hug. You are wonderful people and I admire so much your courage and strength! I can only imagine how difficult it is; I see my own mother struggling with my brothers' addiction, but she is not in recovery for herself. It is brave and beautiful to seek your own recovery. . . Puddinface, I wish you serenity just for today. Maybe in that you can find some answers on how to move forward.
