I want to say thank you, Waiting, for sharing your story and so much personal "stuff" about you. You sound like a wonderful, loyal girl who deserves so much more in a partner, and in a relationship, than what this person has been giving you. I'll be honest and tell you, I think you have him on a pedestal, that you are wearing rose-colored glasses, which are big red flags. I am glad you have come here and posted, and I hope you will consider going to Al-Anon. I want to say, also, that this "man" sounds like one big baby who is crawling around from teat to teat. I surprise myself saying this, because I am normally kinda prudish, but that is the image that comes to my mind when I read your posts. I personally like men who are a little more mature than that.