Things are much improved today. Lots of firsts. First time she's thrown away alcohol, first time she's thrown away cigarettes (she only smokes when she drinks), first time she let me call a treatment center to ask about options. She isn't ready to go to a facility, but she is ready to have somebody come to the house to help and is ready to try AA (again, another first). Somebody earlier said to take things a day at a time, so I'll see if any of this sticks tomorrow morning, but I think she scared herself.
She also said she wanted to talk to her doc about post-partum depression... and she never goes to doctors. So I'm just saying a few little prayers and doing what I can to encourage this direction. Small steps, but the first ones she's ever taken.