Originally Posted by
FreeingMyself 
I would not be answering the phone during the day while I was working. So I got 3 texts....none of which I read during the day. The first said, "Why do you hate me so much?", the second said, "ok", the third said, "Pretty shady, you know you are still married and have kids." !
Originally Posted by
FreeingMyself , or as you can see above when I don't respond he will start texting me bad message and accuse me of all sorts of things. !
I'm not seeing the bad messages?
The messages I do see, could be deleted without further reading.
I suggest setting a date and time for visits. Stick to it. Last minute changes are automatic "NO".
I suggest not doing anything for him that he can do for himself. He can schedule his own appointments.
I suggest not talking to him about your day to day stuff. It is a hard habit to break.