I had a protective order against my XAH and it protected me. She (yours) should not be coming around you and your workplace. Mine did not remember what he did during a blackout....but the protective order worked. He knew I meant business. He stayed away. Eventually I realized I was in love with his potential...not who he was. It taught me boundaries. I know now what I don't want. I am sad for you but you will get through it.