Originally Posted by
laurie6781 
(((((Phineas)))))
Welcome to Sober Recovery. I am glad you found us, but sorry for the reason.
Here you will find some really great ES&H (Experience, Strength and Hope) from folks who have been where you are or are where you are now.
First, regarding the current events. I would suggest you go to your nearest police station, talk to the desk sergeant, tell them a brief synopsis and that you ARE ON THE LEASE and ask for Police Assistance to retrieve your belongings.
Police deal with this sort of thing all the time and will be more than happy to assist you. If, and that is a real big IF she did file a FALSE POLICE REPORT, you can probably clear that up quickly with your calm sane manner and a brief synopsis of what has been going on. I actually doubt if she filed a report at all, but was just 'flapping' her lips as inebriated alkies are prone to do.
I speak from experience, both sides of the fence, I am in recovery and have been clean and sober over 29 years and have been a participating member of Al-anon for over 26 years.
Do not attempt to get your possessions, without a police escort. Do not attempt to confront her without witnessess. You will not know if she is sober, hung over, or still on a binge.
Now is when you 'take care of you.' Having a practicing alcoholic in your life can be 'hell' as most of us on here know.
I am glad to see that you are availing yourself of Al-Anon, your meetings will be a big help and great source of strength for you!
Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing as we do care very much.
Love and hugs,
Thanks for the support!
I know for a fact the she filed a police report, I just don't know if she pressed charges. When she told me she's calling the police and I left the house, I immediately called her mom, and she called her uncle, who lives near here, and he came to the house while the cops where still there. Her uncle told the cops that she's probably lying because she's an active alcoholic and the cop told him that he suspects her wound is self inflicted. She, since then, told her uncle that she's still talking to the police and that there's a police car outside the house looking out for me. I don't think she actually went down to the police stated and pressed
charges so they will issue a warrant.
Her uncle is on my side because he's familiar with her alcoholic history, which apparently dates back much farther than when I met her, and he's going to go with me to the police station tomorrow to talk to them and ask them for a police escort to the house so I can get at least some of my belongings.
I just hope I don't get arrested. I'm a foreign student on a student visa and a criminal charge could get me kicked out of grad school, deported, and end my career. That's why first thing I'm going to talk to a lawyer tomorrow.
I just want this to go away so I get start to get on with my life.
She's been trying to contact me today, called over 30 times and even went to my office to look for me, but I'm avoiding all contact since she's really unstable right now.
I don't know how a person who loves someone can do such a thing.
I'm going to keep trying the al-anon, to try to keep my sanity, although I'm very not-spiritual and not religious and it's hard for me to connect to the whole 12 step program.