Dude, my AH did the SAME things.
It took a good two years for me to learn to not buy into all this garbage, stop trying to figure out how to prove ANYTHING to him. Letting go is my friend now.
Check out passive aggressive behavior too. That really opened my eyes.
Oh, and rant away! I'm the queen of ranting, the trick is getting back to your happy place once its all out.
hugs