When I booted my AD out after coming home to a house reeking of pot, my stereo blaring, and a man in my house I didn't even know, she had two weeks to pick up her stuff. After that, anything left went in the dumpster. I stuck to my guns.
I also changed my locks.
I am sorry you are hurting. Please be gentle to yourself, and know that it
will get better with time as you continue to work your own program of recovery.