Bad Choices, I have found there is lots of projection going on with some about their personal stories with their loved ones who had a drinking problem. But the demonizing and blanket statements get to me as well. It is about boundaries. YOUR boundaries and what you will or won't put up with. I think telling you to 'dump him and get over it' is callous and not realistic. Take the wisdom you can from those who really have insight and leave the drama to the rest. You can't assume that because someone was married to an abusive alkie that will be your story. There are many levels of dysfunction and just as many reasons as to why people drink. To lump them all is overly simplistic. You know him best, you have to protect and take care of you first. Peace.