Thank you Ray... yes I've already experienced how excruciating all of this is a couple times and even after "detaching" you still find yourself in panic mode when they don't call or come home. I can't imagine what his mom is going through! She keeps a lot to herself, but I told her yesterday that I would be there for her if she ever needed to talk or needed help in dealing with all of this. She doesn't want anybody to know and tries to shoulder it all. I dont know if i would be overstepping by sending her a link to this site or talking about naranon. We got along and like eachother but never got that close.
Thank you for pointing out those posts, they were very helpful!:ghug3