Originally Posted by
ExCordis 
His family wants me to stay and help him,and I feel stuck...I'm not sure what to do anymore.
Welcome to SR ExCordis, I just want to comment on the above quote from you. One of the main reasons that I have stayed married to my alcoholic husband for so many years is because I felt it would not be fair to burden his parents with the reality of his addiction. I do not know how it happened, but somewhere along the way I became responsible for protecting others (his parents and our children) from his addiction. Somehow this became MY burden to bear! I was so afraid and so ashamed that I did not reach out for help until I realized that HIS addiction is so much more than I can handle.
I just want to say that I now know that my husband's alcoholism is so much bigger than me! I did NOT cause it, I can NOT control it and I can NOT cure it! I have tried... take care of yourself and let the other adult people around you take care of themselves!