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Old 08-06-2010, 09:17 AM
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Originally Posted by ChrrisT View Post
When we are in a relationship with someone, alcoholic or not, we are,(not victims) but affected by their actions and behavior.

When the alcoholic drains the bank account or totals the car, believe me - he's getting blamed for those "circumstances" that affect my life and cause me misery.

Can we choose to leave? absolutely we should. But he's still being blamed for it.
Absolutely. The rub is, myself and many others here stayed after those type of things (and worse) happened. We don't leave, we stay and call it "hope." We blame the alcoholic for our misery, yet we choose to stay and remain miserable. We pretend that our love and perseverance will make a difference. We refuse to accept the reality of who they are right now, and instead cling to who we just know they have the potential to become. And that is the difference between being affected and being a victim.......

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