Am I allowed to post URL links? (My apologies if not; I've read the guidelines and can't find anything.)
Below is a very comprehensive description of the patterns, behaviours and thought processes of someone who may be in a relationship with an alcoholic. I certainly saw myself in this article.
Enabling Personality | LIVESTRONG.COM
ETA: here's another one.
Are you an Enabler? - Mental Health - Families.com