Originally Posted by
LaTeeDa 
My take on codependency is that it is a set of learned behaviors (coping mechanisms) that can be unlearned. But, only if they are acknowledged. I will freely admit to some level of insanity while I was deep in my codependency. And, yes, abuse was part of it too, albeit not the physical kind.
The words, insanity and abuse obviously have negative connotations and stigma attached to them, causing much defensiveness. I find it interesting that so many here prefer to label themselves "idiots" and "stupid," rather than "codependent."
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Because not all of us fit the codependent mold, some of us didn't grow up in alcoholic or addict families, and some of us had perfectly fine and sober spouses until the ugly beast of alcoholism reared its head.
But, like all humans we may have made idiotic decisions, or held beliefs that were pretty stupid now seen in hindsight.
That's why.