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Old 08-05-2010, 08:05 AM
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From zbear23: I think that the addict-codependent relationship is mutually abusive and insane.

I would probably qualify that statement to specify that untreated/unrecovering addicts/codeps are probably in mutually abusive relationships. I am an alcoholic, sober many years, and there was a time that I didn't have much to offer besides my alcoholic, very unhealthy self. There was no "me" in a relationship....just my sick parts. And of course, we all know that two sickies don't make a wellie. I'm not sure how I could have expected to attract a "healthy" person during my drinking days. I understand now that I was fair game for the emotionally unavailable, for the abusive and dishonest men who recognized that I didn't think enough of myself to protest the abuse.
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