Every personal experience and observation, as well as research and studies, show time after time that there is an undeniable mutuality in the alcoholic-codependent relationship. Both are addicts and both suffer a form of insanity, a prime characteristic of which is denial of any responsibility for their part in the dynamic.
Let's be clear -
I am married to a recovering alcoholic -that in NO WAY makes me an addict or insane. Naive - yes, stupid - maybe so.
Be careful about saying "EVERY"
Maybe she was "drama queen" but you sound bitter and resentful. IMO