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Old 08-03-2010, 10:40 PM
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Let me tell you something: your husband IS a mean, abusive drunkard. And that shame, by the way, is HIS, not yours. This is why he doesn't want you speaking your truth--but you have a RIGHT and a responsibility to yourself to tell your truth and get whatever support you need in order to get stronger. And the truth is, his choices ARE hurting you. His abusive tirades ARE hurting you.

He has made you fell unloved and unsafe in your own home. These are not loving actions. And instead of feeling remorse at how his behaviour made you feel, he lays on a heavy dose of manipulation and guilt. Oh, the love affair between an alcoholic and his bottle! Utter, utter selfishness.

I hope this is the start of your journey to freedom. Your precious life was not given to you so that it could be wasted in servitude to a manipulative, self-serving abusive drunk. You were put here for much better things, I can assure you.
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