Quote INever: ((( I've accomplished a lot in my life in spite of him. While he was stoned and drunk, I got a master's degree. While he was hungover, I achieved a lot of success in my career. While he was loading up his bong, I was strengthening relationships with my family members. )))
Seems obvious to anyone that he has contributed nothing to your achievements in your life, and no doubt he has benefited in many ways from your success.
I would be surprised if he went quietly when you call him on this, as he stands to lose out of this. He may also react strongly when you tell him you want out, instead of the
scenario of him forgiving you and you being grateful.
As you see, his behavior is irrational, controlling and abusive, and who needs this cr*p?
Have your say to him, sort out who goes and then put him on the NC list, which means any contact is toxic.
God bless