I sat in an AlAnon meeting last night and talked about how my XAH was SO jealous and now that we're divorced I have started to do all of the things that make me happy and it is WONDERFUL. Thank goodness you are not married to this man. You don't need him. RUN!!!!!!
And I would suggest going to an AlAnon meeting. It will help you get your head screwed back on straight. And keep reading here. You'll learn a lot.
Kudos to you for your independence!