For years, I was locked in a power struggle with my AH. I needed to prove I was right and get him to admit it. He became skilled at getting me to question myself. At some point, it no longer mattered what he thought of me and my choices. It didn't matter whether he (or anyone else) agreed with me. I had to do what was right for me and stop trying to mold myself into some vision of what I had convinced myself I
should be. I'd rather be happy than right.
L