Moni, what a revelation!!
Those eggshells on the bottom of your feet can be scraped off at any time you choose and from the sound of it, you have made up your mind to do just that. Good for you!!
You are doing what is right for you and your children. If he wants to seek recovery and be a part of that bright future, the choice is his.
He may continue to choose this unhealthy behavior bringing a dark cloud over his family and getting angry if his thrown is taken or the meal he doesn't want isn't still prepared for him, but now you really see that his is choice not your's and you can step away.
You are one brave lady! Hang in there, we're to support you and keep you focused.
Alice