Welcome!
I was raised in an alcoholic home. Today at 63, I still bear the scars of their abuse, both were "A's".
My only advise...children first...please don't put them through a toxic childhood, one surrounded by alcoholism.
I have come through the dark tunnel, not without many setbacks. No, I am not an alcoholic or drug addict, but, I made so many bad decisions based on what I saw in my home.
You have the opportunity to make a better life for you and your children, do it.
Make your children your first priorty, give them a chance for a bright future, the longer you stay, the slimmer their chances are. Not my rules, just how it works.
I send you hugs,
Dolly