hi purplepenquin-
thanks for explaining all of that. it's opened my eyes regarding potheads.
what you have described is quite similar to what we experience with our alcoholics: the emotional unavailability, the indifference, the missing in action, the apathy, the questionable friendships with other addicts.
good for you for identifying what it is that you require in a relationship and leaving. yes, it's painful to leave but in the long run, it would have been probably been more painful to stay and witness.
it is my understanding that people who wish to quit potsmoking are welcomed at CA (cocaine anonymous).
statistics support that those who smoke pot are more likely to experiment with harder drugs and/or alcohol. many develop multiple dependencies in the long term.
let's add to this that it is illegal and also, that those harmless potsmokers often have to come into contact with black market drug dealers in order to secure their fix. all shady business you are wise to have nothing to do with.
naive