Dear YadaYada,
We all brush away instincts don’t we? We know what God is telling us but we refuse to listen, the devil knows when we are weak, he knows that feeling we women love to feel, like a princess that can control our world and everything around it. His Sponsor didn’t want him dating so he fired him… how special you must be. To bad you couldn’t talk to this sponsor he fired, after all he has more experience with dealing with your prince and a lot more just like him. Do you think this sponsor doesn’t like you or could it be he’s trying to save you because he knows this prince is not ready and will relapse? Maybe deep down you really want to be like your parents, could be your comfort zone. White Collar is a must when you deal with an alcoholic and be sure to buy a house in the minimum wage area of town or go ahead and get a dumpy apartment or duplex because you will end up here anyway. Stress, depression no big deal they make pills for everything, you may have 2 or 3 children from him before you lose your job and he’s too drunk to show up for work (then your children will say the same things you say about your parents) . Maybe when a rich relative passes they will pass along a good chunk of money and lucky you will be able to catch your breath before he drains that account dry and the cycle will start all over again. How sweet of him, he wants to keep things casual and friendly because of your past, he will learn how to get to you, after all most alcoholics are sociopaths (not all sociopaths are violent criminals). They set back and observe your weakness, and strength they even do things like loving the same foods and drinks and places to go after all, all they need is a warm place to sleep and a steady flow of alcohol. Criminal record? What did he do? Is this the reason he is going to AA so he won’t have to spend time in jail? If you can’t handle 30-60 minutes of him talking about AA, how are you gonna handle a lifetime? After all, once a alcoholic, always a alcoholic. Same as a pedophile, you always hear and they also admit they can’t stop it, they have to stay away. Now for the good talk… If you are so desperate to be in a relationship and only a Alcoholic Criminal will do, go for it! But I can tell you, you will be more lonely with him than without him. I just find it a shame a well educated beautiful lady wasted all that time in school to make a good life for herself just to marry a loser ( he may be cute, sweet, best kisser, lover and all of the above but so was most of our spouses). I wish you the best, please don't give in to him yet....Log in here everyday and Read, Read, Read.