Manipulating
I should probably mention that he has said things like, "I didn't do this just for you, but really, you caused it." Then he goes on to explain that his previous group/sponsor wasn't letting him live his life outside of AA, and that it wasn't just for me, it was for any relationship in general, but that I was the kind of trigger. So he tries to qualify it, but maybe he is manipulating me.
My mother attends meetings right now - I've talked to her about him, and her reaction was similar (that she thinks I am being manipulated). Maybe I just hate the thought of being easily manipulated because I like to think I'm smarter than all that (ha, the ego!).
Truth is, I have grown to feel like I 'need' our nightly chats too. But I have a bigger support system and I will not wither without this relationship, either.
Thank you!