I love you folks and thank you. On a related thread...
A guy at work always comes in to the office and has to touch in some way - he puts his icey water bottle on your neck, or tickles or picks up your ponytail and tickles you with it...into women's personal space and not okay. Otherwise, he's a nice guy and isn't creepy, and yet, it's uncomfortable.
So, I decided to say something. I've been fretting and worrying how to say it and how not to make him uncomfortable and how to not burn that bridge with him, etc. etc. and finally I realized - ALL THIS FUSS! His feelings and reaction are irrelevant! I feel uncomfortable; I need to set a boundary to say no; he can do what he wants!
I let myself get all tied in knots and I have to keep reminding myself to slow down, clarify and make it simple.
peace