Hugs, Lulu. It's funny that you should mention that your ex has a sensor for when you're feeling your weakest. I remember posting a while back that mine has radar for when I get good news and contacts me/does something to completely PO or drag me down. Two sides of the same coin, I think. No matter the situation when they contact us - it doesn't benefit us - it's not meant to benefit us and, in my case at least, I feel it never will. I now have a civil no contact order to help shield me from my STBX (which he has already violated; it took 1.5 days for him to do it - what an idiot... Info relayed to my lawyer, we'll see what happens now.)