Originally Posted by
kittymammas 
I also have a thought in the back of my mind and I hate realizing I have ever thought it...sometimes I feel that it would be easier to be with out him, like give up on him (which I really don't want). I mean even if he does recover..it will be something he will have to work on FOREVER...I can't believe I think like that but I guess we all have our guilty thoughts from time to time in a tough situation.
I had that exact thought. Man, when that little piece of reality smacked me in the face, I decided I was done. I had to bail. I remember thinking even if she gets sober TODAY, it will be years and years of hard uphill work, to even get to normal.
I find it "ironical" that WE can't fix/help them get better, but THEY can drag ALL (family/friends) of us down with them? Weird.
"Let go or be dragged", there came a time when I had to let go of the rope. BTW, that took years.
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote