Wow runningfree,
I can really relate to the "adult daughter' thing. I'm 36 and just starting to see that pattern. I look for people to make my decisions and of course I blame them for disappointmnets. Through my 12 step recovery, I am learning how to stand on my own, and see people for what they truly are. My husband is just like the description you gave. Today I realize that I must look inside for my answers, and not to someone else. I can love him without making him God. Hugs, Magic