boogiequeen3

My husband of 10yrs. had his last drink 10 days ago. I don't really know the difference in problem drinking and being an alchoholic. Anyway...my husband has always drank. When we dated and first were married we'd go out dancing/drinking with friends. Then all that stopped when we started our family. It's hard to remember how much/how often he has drank over the years. All I know is that I've really had issues with it the past 3-4yrs. It seems that is has really escalated. He probably drank 5 evenings a week. Sometimes more sometimes less. And when he drank it was never 1 or 2 beers. IF he had a six pack he'd ususally drink 4-6. The same with a 12pack but sometimes it would be more. This just really pissed me off. We have 3 children and he would either come home with it or if things were a little crazy at home he'd say "I'm going to the store". He never got drunk...was never abusive. I guess it just took the edge off or something. But it didn't make him any less short tempered with me or the kids. We have talked about the drinking many times but as the years and gone by I don't mention it as much. He thinks that because he's not falling down drunk then there isn't a problem. I told him that he doesn't have to be falling down drunk to be an A-hole. Anyway...last week we had some family over and he had been drinking all day. He had an accident with a family member who got hurt. Everyone is ok but this really did a number on my husband. I told him that he needed to stop drinking. He confided in his brother that he couldn't stop at 1 or 2 beers. My husband has always been the crazy fun guy who's not afraid to do anything but I told him that he's not 18yrs. old anymore and everyone will still love him even if he changes. 4 days after the accident a friend came over and brought him a 6pk. My heart sank....I thought he was going to drink but he saw how upset I was so he didn't. I know he is still so embarrassed and distraut about the accident. Something much worse could've happened and thank God it didn't. I've been praying for a long time for him to quit drinking and hopefully this is his wake up call. But I don't know what to do. Last night was the first time since he quit that I could tell he was struggling. The kids were being a pain and he was really stressed. Normally he'd drink so I don't think he knew what to do with himself...and I didn't know what to do or say. He told me this morning the he dreamed about beer all night. This man will never agree to go to meetings or anything. He quit once before for @ 5 months. When he started up again he said he only quit to see if he could. I don't remember him feeling this way that time....maybe he knows this time is it. If he starts drinking again....I don't know what i will do. This incident that happened also opened my eyes alot. Any replys are appreciated. Thanks