Rozie, I can't count the scams I fell for, over and over because I wanted so much to believe that "this time would be different".
I learned that it was true what they said "Nothing changes if nothing changes" so I had to change me.
Although my son has been missing for many years now, if he came to me tomorrow with 6 years clean...I still would not do anything for him except continue to pray for him.
Once trust has been broken (especially many times over) I no longer trust. I can love, encourage and pray, but trust just doesn't come easy to me these days.
Sending big hugs because I know how hard this is for you. And I encourage you to get back to those meetings and surround yourself with support. They saved my life and they can save yours too.
Love you Rozie, and I keep your boy in my prayers every day.
Hugs