Okay. Taking the next step
Mom texted me this morning to ask if I wanted anything out of their basement (they are moving into another rental house right now, and they are trying to decide what to get rid of/sell and what to keep). So I'm going up there tomorrow to walk through the basement and make sure they aren't throwing out anything I wanted to keep.
I started to make these plans for Saturday, when dh could go with me... but I think he's not quite ready to be around my dad again yet, since dad said so many horrible things about him. I thought maybe it would be best for me to edge my way back to them, and then let dh do whatever works for him.
I'm also glad that I have an objective reason to go up there, so that if things get hairy, I can get my job done and leave. Or if they are going smoothly, I can stay longer.
Just be praying for me please... I have no expectations, only hopes that we can get along for a few hours.