FYI, if you did not already know, you can attend an on-line Al-Anon meeting; you can just sit and read what everyone else is saying, you do not have to participate at all. Helped me a lot in the beginning. I also found it helpful to read about AA, and sit in (on-line) as well to an AA meeting. Sometimes I read the Alcoholic's posts here at SR too. In the beginning, it all just helped me get some perspective and understanding about the disease. Still does, I guess.