I go to AA and Al Anon ..
Speaking as an alcoholic, I had problems from my drinking. There are many alcoholics that, go to work every day and don't have a brush with the law though...
My son picked up his third DUI while he was driving on a revoked from his second DUI that, he hasn't got resolved yet
I'm talking to deaf ears when, I ask him to go to an AA meeting with me
I can't divorce my son but, I'm not going to enable him.
I hope, you'll give Al Anon a try.