Welcome. You have come to the right place. Al-anon is also a lifesaver. As you will soon learn, it's about you now. Your happiness, your life, your children. I felt better as soon as I reached out to others who had been where I found myself. I'll bet all of us have been called "Control Freaks" by the alcoholics in our lives. Anything to take the emphasis off of themselves. Alcoholism is a progressive disease, and although your H may be functioning fairly well now, it will most likely only get worse. Making us feel bad is just a part of the package. You are not alone. Keep reading, and keep posting. It's good for the soul. Glad you are here.