Oh No Puppy
Are you afraid? what is the consequence if you don't listen?
It sounds like the alcohol and pot are just symptoms of a bigger problem.
In a relationship without self medication - it's talked about, maybe see a counselor, whatever.
But when you add drugs/alcohol - reason - goes out the window.
You are no longer dealing with a person who is thinking clearly, obviously.
But you need to be clear - keep reading, learning and growing so you have the tools to help you make choices that are good for YOU.
Stay strong & keep posting