My sister is an addict, but it's all the same to an extent. Right now I have no contact with her or my parents because my parents are mad at me for not helping them to enable her, and I don't want to get drawn back into trying to save her and trying to save them from her. So I'm working on me for now.
It sounds to me like our situations are very different in this regard, however, since you don't seem to be tempted to rescue anyone. If you want to stay in touch with him, you may just have to come to terms with the fact that, as an alcoholic, he's gonna be a bit on the immature side, and that means he's gonna be a bit selfish. What do you think would be best? I don't see a right or wrong here, as long as you are being realistic.