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Old 07-18-2010, 09:26 PM
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sandrawg
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I highly recommend you check out an al-anon meeting.

Living with an alcoholic makes anyone codependent. It is incredibly stressful and painful living with an alcoholic, and only those who have done it, can understand the unique issues and problems. When you go to al-anon, you will meet others who have been through it. I was with my xabf for 3 yrs, off and on. We broke up 3 months ago, but I still go to al-anon, because it helps me deal with the leftover trauma and pain from being made a low priority after alcohol.

My ex said the same thing as your husband: "If you don't like my drinking you can walk."

Well, you know what, I decided long ago to never make anyone a priority who only makes me an option. And when he had a big drunken temper tantrum on his birthday, that was when I hit MY bottom and left.
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