Welcome to SR, pitbullmama!
As has already been said, alcoholism is a progressive disease. It only gets worse, never better when left untreated.
Gambling addiction is the same.
I would highly recommend getting your hands on a book called "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie.
Check into Alanon meetings in your area as there you will find face-to-face support from people who understand.
Alcoholism is a family disease. I come from generations of alcoholics on both sides of the family, and was the first to break the chain when I went through rehab in 1986.
I am also a recovering codependent. I was married to an abusive alcoholic/addict (now deceased), have a 32 year old daughter who's an active addict, and my 22 year old is an untreated codependent hooked up with an alcoholic.
You don't have to stay stuck in this cycle that has repeated for another generation.
I know how draining and utterly devastating it is being married to an alcoholic.
Keep posting and know you are among friends.
