Welcome to the SR family!
Pull out the keyboard and make yourself at home.
You will find lots of support and information here.
You mentioned that your RAH (recovering alcoholic husband) has a sponsor and is working the steps.
How about you?
What steps are you taking to live a more serene life? Have you tried Alanon? Even though your A is now sober, you still qualify as having a loved one that was addicted to alcohol.
I find Alanon meetings help me to stay focused, calm and serene in my personal, business and casual relationships.