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Old 07-16-2010, 09:22 AM
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Originally Posted by akrasia View Post
If things don't change once he's sobered up tomorrow I will leave for a few months. I don't want to divorce him, ever.

Hi Akrasia... Welcome to SR!

I'm so sorry you are going through this now.

I pulled this statement out because it stands out the most. I believe you should find an AlAnon meeting to attend if they have them where you are and/or read up on alcoholism and addiction. I just hope you understand that recovery takes time and doesn't happen in a few days or by "tomorrow." He might stop drinking but without recovery work his behaviors stay the same and a relapse is inevitable (always). It's a vicious cycle that you can get easily pulled into if you allow.

Possibly, your idea of going away for a few months to see what he decides may not be a bad idea. It will certaintly get you to focus on your own healing and to get him to focus on recovery (if he chooses that path). If not, you have already done the hardest part and that's stepping out on your own.

Best of luck with that decision. I know all too well the difficulty in making them.
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