have you met individually with the coucelor? If not I would ask to. Bring up your concern.
I would also call the domestic violence hotline. I recently went throuh a domestic violence situation and it was very eye opening the information they can provide. They also have a screening they do ( not sure what it is called) But they ask a series of questions and then rate in on a scale of 0-4. My AH scored a 3.
Oh and I never thought my AH would get physical........until he did. Adiction is a crazy thing