Thanks, I get what you are saying. I was talking with a friend of mine and I have already verbalized all of what you are saying. I know he should be in a meeting. And he should have realized that immediately instead of telling me all about it. I am out of town on business right now and when I return I want to be able to say what I need. It seems him getting plugged back in and actively working "whatever" it is he needs to work is a reasonable expectation on my part if I am to consider staying. I share your concern, when did it become my responsibility to keep him ok? I spent a lot of years in a codependent marriage and believe, not going back. I so appreciate your comment. I will check out the other area of this website. Thanks again.