Just wanted to chime in, mentally, on the issue of single parenting.
Though I *am* struggling a bit with having time for myself while giving my DD the attention/care she needs, and with finding the career that will allow me to be a happy and fulfilled mama, at least now I have the time and mental/emotional energy needed to give these concerns some thought, whereas when I was married to XAH, all my energy was directed at managing his addiction.
I try to remind myself daily that I am truly blessed to have the opportunity to live this time, instead of still being trapped inside the madness that was my marriage to XAH.