Just do it one minute at a time. Mike, DesertEyes, reminded me recently that as long as I'm thinking I have to get away and stay away forever from my AH, it will make me afraid. Afraid that I can't do it.
But the minute I start living in the present moment, something magical happens. I only have to do this right now. That empowers me, makes me feel hope actually.
I'm thrilled to hear this from you. I can't remember if you've already talked to a domestic violence shelter? What you write about this man pegs him squarely as an abuser, and a scary one that might seriously hurt you or your daughter when you leave.
Have you started gathering important documents? Secretly packing so you can flee at a moments notice? Or better yet, disappear in the night perhaps, with the car, while he's passed out? Or during the day while he's at work?