Thank you everyone for your words of support and advice. I am pleased to say there was no drinking or arguing last night. I feel so so tired, mentally and physically..........everything seems too hard at the moment. I am usually such an active person but I feel like my energy has been sucked out of me. We declined a social invitation last night that would have involved alcohol and one tonight that would involve alcohol. Any tips on dealing with people who put the pressure on to drink? The main couple we socialize with it is nearly always drinking first, eating second. I have been avoiding them for the week while I was staying at my friends place..........Thanks