Old 07-10-2010, 02:38 PM
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Learn2Live
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Did I cause my husband to become an Alcoholic??
Absolutely not.

You did not cause it, you cannot control it, and you cannot cure it.

Yes, I agree that you have done the right thing.

I don't want to look back in 25 years thinking "what have I done" staying with someone who won't get help.
This sounds like a very intelligent decision to me.

If it were me, I wouldn't let him back in the house, no matter what he says. NEVER EVER EVER allow ANYone who has or would hit you or otherwise physically harm you, be them drunk, sober, stoned, whatever, to be in your presence EVER.

Anyway, they will talk and talk and talk and do NOTHING about getting and staying sober. The man has a problem and without the alcoholism, the history you told in your post likely would have been very different.

I suggest you go to Al-Anon and stick with your Mom. She sounds like a pretty intelligent woman too.
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