Originally Posted by
TheSeeker It's heartbreaking really. ...it's just my personality to help people out..
That's what the alcoholic knows and manipulates. It's counterintuitive to think that the best way to help an alcoholic is to NOT get in there and meddle and control and give it your best shot in helping them, but it's true. As a sadder but wiser person half a century older than you, I know that for a fact.
Be glad that all this is so transparent early in the relationship.